A long time ago, someone told me that luck didn’t exist. Luck wasn’t just being in the right place at the right time, it was about being prepared for an opportunity and recognizing when the opportunity arose. I like that definition of luck because it gives you control. We all know people who seem to have the best luck. They’ve got everything you want in life. A good partner, car, job, living arrangement, they look good, whatever it is, you may see them as lucky. What you may not see them as is patient.
If pride is the ultimate sin, patience is the ultimate virtue. Where pride is a loud and controlling person in a room full of people commanding attention, patience is off somewhere else lining up dominoes. Patience is aware of what’s going on. Patience is waiting for the right moment, even if the wait becomes uncomfortably long. It pays to just wait a second.
I am not patient all the time.
I make mistakes in my own life where I should have been patient and it’s caused me trouble, and even though I intellectually know that I need to be more patient in certain situations, a little anxious voice in the back of my mind whispers to me telling me that the right opportunity may never come. If I don’t make a move now, I’ll never get the chance. It’s wrong of course. There’s always time, especially if you ask for it. If I had the chance to redo these things, I’d have been more patient and careful.
Anxieties are the mortal enemy of patience and progress. Entertaining those thoughts that push you to act before the time is right is how you miss the mark or cause problems for yourself later on. You’ll know when the time is right. How? That’s up to you, but you’ll know. It comes down to being mindful of both yourself and the environment around you.
By no means am I saying never take action in your life. Take action. You need to be active in your life, in your personal development, in your relationships, in everything. Be active. Be there. But don’t be overactive. Sometimes it’s better to wait and observe. Sometimes it’s better to look before you leap.
So don’t do everything and don’t do nothing. Once again, some form of balance is necessary. How much balance? Can you let the scales tip from side to side? Of course. Use your intuition, but listen to your gut feeling about your gut feeling. You already know the answers to your questions, but it never hurts to examine the questions and the answers to see if they’re worth entertaining.
Something that I’ve found helpful is taking more time to really understand the situation you’re in. Chances are, there are a couple questions you may not have thought to find answers too yet.
You can’t know everything about a situation, so there will always come a time where you’ll notice yourself wondering again, “is this the time to do the thing?”. How will you know when it’s the right time? You’ll feel it in a level-headed way. You won’t be overly influenced by strong emotions, you’ll have considered, and learned what you need to feel confident in your decision. And that’s the time to act.