Why are you living your life the way you are?
When you start growing up, you tend to hear from people how to live. Do well in school, go to a good university, take a profitable career path, get married, buy a house, have a child, get a bigger house, have another child, maybe a dog, work until you're 65 and retire and then you can do whatever you want with your life. Sound familiar? It's what so many people do. It's the societal mould.
In that mould, there's not much room for enjoying life. It's all work, taking care of responsibilities, and some sleep. It forces you into that corner where even your intimate relationships become seen as work. Why would anyone want to live that way? At the same time, why do so many people live that way? We're caught up with this pursuit of money. It's all in the media. Of course, it's possible to live a fulfilling life that way, but that's not always easy. Most people who get caught up in that path go through a midlife crisis, or even a quarter-life crisis. The existential dread you feel when you deeply question if what you're doing is what you really want. It's probably not.
So what do you want? You probably want to be happy, have good health, good relationships (friends, romantic, family, all of that good stuff), and have time to pursue your passions. But how do you get that? Of course, the first step is to figure out what you want, and then you just go and get it. It's really that simple. Know what you want, and then go get it. Getting it is always the hardest part, because that takes the most time. However, the more you become used to going after what you want instead of what the people around you tell you to want, the easier it becomes.
There are infinite ways to live your life. You don't just have to go to work for 35 years and then retire. You can learn about something you're genuinely interested in and make a living off that, or travel the world for years writing a blog, or so many things. You don't need to work in high tech, or medical, or law, or whatever pays well to live a good life. If you plan your life around enjoying your life, so many options open up. I know a guy who works in a vegan grocery and coffee shop and lives in a tiny house. That's it. He realized he doesn't need boatloads of money to be happy. That's not to say that that lifestyle is for you. It may not be. You may be content with living in a small place, working for a few years, and then quitting to become a writer, or a musician. Or maybe you just start making great art and sell your craft to those. There are huge communities based on makers and creative people building and sharing.
But what makes people the happiest? Other people. Doesn't matter if you're introverted or extroverted. A strong sense of community taps into our primal ape brains and unleashes a strong sense of fulfillment when we live in close communities. It always comes back to having good relationships. It's one of the pillars of happiness. But the media/society/they won't tell you that because what the media/society/they want you to have is more stuff. Stuff isn't the answer. Doing your own thing is the answer.
Don't follow what everyone else does because you can live any way you want. The hardest part of that is getting past what others might think. Let me tell you, there will be some judgement from others because your path is different, and you're brave enough to take that first step to getting to what you want.